Craft a Compelling First Impression
Craft a captivating first message that doesn’t overwhelm him with a novel. Keep it concise and impactful, ideally within 1-3 sentences. A short but intriguing opener leaves room for anticipation and invites a response.
Avoid generic greetings or bland conversation starters. Research his social media or shared acquaintances to glean some personal details. Referencing something specific to him shows genuine interest and makes him feel like you’re not just one of many matches.
A compelling first message should spark a conversation rather than be a dead end. Pose an open-ended question that encourages him to share his thoughts, interests, or experiences. This sets the stage for engaging dialogue and demonstrates your interest in getting to know him.
Start the conversation with a positive and upbeat tone. Avoid negative or complaining language, as it can dampen his mood and decrease the likelihood of a response. Emphasize the positive aspects of his profile or shared interests to create a welcoming atmosphere.
End your first message with a subtle call-to-action. Suggest a follow-up question, mention a shared interest, or inquire about his day. This gentle nudge encourages him to respond and keeps the conversation flowing.
Keep Him Intrigued
Texting is a powerful tool for building intrigue and keeping a man interested. Follow these tips to keep him on the edge of his seat:
Master the Art of Delayed Gratification
Resist the urge to respond immediately to his messages. Give him time to miss you and anticipate your next words. This creates a sense of excitement and makes him eager to hear from you.
Play the Riddle Game
Send him text messages that spark his curiosity without revealing too much. Ask thought-provoking questions, share cryptic anecdotes, or drop subtle hints that hint at something more to come. This will keep him guessing and eager to learn more about you.
| Example 1 | Example 2 |
|---|---|
| “Guess who saw a shooting star last night? 🌠” | “I just came across a quote that perfectly describes our connection. Care to take a guess?” |
Use cliffhangers to leave him wanting more
End your conversations with a cliffhanger that leaves him wondering what happens next. This will keep him engaged and eagerly anticipating your next message. For example, you could say:
| Example 1 | Example 2 |
|---|---|
| “I can’t wait to tell you what happened at work today. It’s going to blow your mind!” | “I’ve got a surprise planned for you this weekend. Stay tuned for details!” |
Use Open-Ended Questions
Open-ended questions invite him to elaborate and share his thoughts, keeping the conversation flowing and creating opportunities for him to show interest. Here are some examples:
Ask about his interests and hobbies
-“What are you passionate about these days?”
-“What do you enjoy doing in your free time?”
-“What’s the last book you read that you loved?”
Engage in his opinions
-“What do you think about the latest news?”
-“What’s your take on the new movie everyone’s talking about?”
-“What are your thoughts on the current trends in fashion?”
Explore his experiences
-“Can you tell me about your favorite travel destination?”
-“What was the most memorable experience you had last year?”
-“What’s something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet?”
| Closed-Ended Questions | Open-Ended Questions |
|---|---|
| “Are you busy tonight?” | “What are your plans for tonight?” |
| “Do you like this song?” | “What kind of music do you enjoy?” |
| “How was your day?” | “Can you share a highlight from your day?” |
Play the “Hard-to-Get” Card
Playing hard-to-get is a classic strategy that can pique his interest and make him pursue you. Here’s how you can do it effectively over text:
Respond Intermittently
Don’t respond immediately to his messages. Give him some time to wonder what you’re up to and keep him intrigued. Respond within a reasonable time frame, but don’t be predictable.
Keep Your Texts Brief
Long and elaborate texts can come across as needy or desperate. Keep your messages short and sweet. Focus on quality over quantity, and leave him wanting more.
Avoid Oversharing
Don’t share too much personal information or your entire life story in your texts. Create a sense of mystery by revealing snippets of your personality and interests gradually.
| Don’t | Do |
|---|---|
| Respond instantly to every message. | Give him time to miss you and wonder what you’re up to. |
| Send long and rambling texts. | Keep your messages brief and engaging. |
| Overshare personal information. | Gradually reveal bits and pieces of your personality and interests. |
Avoid Emoji Overload
Emojis can be a fun way to add personality to your texts, but using too many can make your messages overwhelming and difficult to read. Instead, use emojis sparingly to highlight key points or add a touch of humor. A good rule of thumb is to limit yourself to one or two emojis per message.
Examples of Emoji Overload:
| Bad Example | Better Example |
|---|---|
| OMG!!! I’m so excited 😍😍😍!!! I can’t wait to see you tonight 🎉🎉🎉 | I’m excited to see you tonight! |
| I’m feeling so down 😞😞😞. I just want to stay in bed all day 😢😢😢 | I’m feeling down today. |
| I love your new dress!!! It’s so pretty 💕👗💕 | Your new dress is beautiful. |
Strike the Right Balance of Texting and Calling
To strike the right balance, follow these guidelines:
9. Send a Good Mix of Texts and Calls
Avoid sticking solely to texts or calls. Mix it up by alternating between the two. Here’s a detailed breakdown:
| Text frequency: |
During the initial stages: 2-3 texts per day Once a connection is established: 1-2 texts per day |
|---|---|
| Call frequency: |
Initial stages: 1 call per week if you’ve been on a date As things progress: Call more frequently (2-3 calls per week) and for longer durations |
Remember: this is just a guideline. Adjust the frequency based on his response rate and your comfort level. Overwhelming him with too many texts or calls can be counterproductive.
